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Can you really make a living following your passion?

There are mixed views around whether following or being in pursuit of your passion can lead to a thriving life and business.

And I wanted to be able to speak to the YES of “can you really make a living following your passion?” Because, you totally can.

Before I go on I want to share a bit about who I am…

I am a dreamer and pursuer of purpose. I have been so my entire life; from a young age I developed a passion for horses, and later on for personal growth and development.

My whole life I have been in pursuit of creating a life reflective of purpose, where I was passionate about what I did.

I have been relentless and persistent with the vision and I am in deep gratitude to be able to have done that.

At 33 years old I live on an 80 acre ranch surrounded by the beautiful a beautiful mountain range - an almost exact reflection of a dream I had since I was little girl.

I have 15 horses who live as close to wild as possible on 50 acres with each other in a happy herd setting.  I have a thriving coaching practice where I get to hold space for others to step into what calls to them deeply and have the courage to do, in purpose, in medicine and most importantly in thriving.

I have made the six figures and have built it around what calls deeply to me, what I am passionate about and what feels purposeful to me.

A life of worth, of meaning and fulfillment to me looked like my work was sacred, my business encompassed my purpose and my passion weaved it’s way into every aspect of my life.

I won’t lie and say it has been easy because it hasn’t. There have been many times I felt the lone believer of what I knew deep within me was possible.

I still had to become comfortable with finances and business plans (the practical and logical aspects of running a business).

But I have always held onto with - a vice grip of fierceness - that passion and purpose can be what I build my life around, because that is what living on purpose means to me.

So, how did I do it?

I believe that there is a difference between being in pursuit of our passions and in pursuit of our purpose. I am passionate about horses, but a life with just horses is not my purpose.

I reflected and spent years searching for a career that felt meaningful to me and having the courage to look at where I could hold space alongside with it. I had to let myself acknowledge and recognize my own capacity to hold space for my purpose and my dreams first. And that turned out to look like spending years honing my craft, refining, and asking the right questions - including how to hold the intention of creating a thriving practice alongside what lit me up.

There were times where I wasn’t supporting myself and making a living following my passion, where I was creating more and more debt even alongside a beautiful facility and a herd of 8 horses.

There was a time I was too afraid to step into creating a coaching practice, because I didn’t believe I could help anyone, and I convinced myself through thoughts that I most definitely could not create a practice around purpose or “woo,” or speaking of the things that lit me up and in turn being able to hold space for the conversation of purpose for others.

There were times I was in denial of my space within my own business, where I excluded myself from the picture and conversation, lacking the confidence in my ability to build something sustainable and worthy.

There were times that I was deeply afraid I was delusional, that I was too much of a dreamer and would never be able to achieve what I held secretly within me.

I won’t lie when I say that it hasn’t been work. I have been walking this path for years, really since I was a girl I immersed myself in my field before I stepped into it as coach, trainer and leader. I spent years on my own with horses, in reflection, working on myself in personal growth, and investing in my own self awareness where I wasn’t making money at all.

And yet I persisted, I held the vision, I did not lose faith, completely.

Can you really make a living following your passion?

Yes you can… and it’s not the only ingredient in the equation, you must be willing to expand your awareness of yourself in connection to your passion, acknowledging your gifts and strengths alongside with it.

You must spend time honing your craft, understanding the in’s and out’s of where you feel called, getting curious to what is the purpose underneath this passion.

You have to have courage, to be able to put yourself forward and be in pursuit of something greater, to hold the space of possibilities and belief for yourself, surround yourself with people who empower and believe in you, and to find the endurance to keep walking and holding the vision of your path.

You gotta do the work, everyday. The inner work and the steps towards what you are creating externally need constant attention in order for you to be willing to get uncomfortable and stretch yourself when it feels too overwhelming or daunting or hard.

You have to be willing to take risks, to invest, to ask yourself what is greater than your fear of failure. For me, I was more afraid to getting to the end of my life without having been in pursuit of anything and having regrets than to fear the failure.

You have to have a strong sense of self, to be committed and hold conviction in your purpose. I often say it is not that we are not clear, it is sometimes that we are not holding the right questions or we don’t have the courage to see the clarity of our paths and our purpose.

Because we know, inside we know what our purpose is, we know what our strengths are, we know what our gifts can be in relationship to our passion, we are just afraid of seeing them.

Because in seeing them it means we can’t excuse ourselves from living it, and we have to muster up the courage and the energy to be in pursuit of something, that we can’t hide from ourselves and the world anymore and we can’t deny the existence of purpose in our lives.

It is not an easy path although I do believe it is the one that is more fulfilling, that leads to not just the fulfillment of our desire to thrive externally but the deep fulfillment that comes from when we hold space and move towards the call of our purpose.

The truth is…

I live a deeply meaningful life. I have moments where I am honestly in disbelief of where I am - it feels like it didn’t happen quickly at all and then I look in amazement at where I am at just 33 years old.

I have sacrificed, I have stayed the course, when it felt easy and when it felt cloudy and hard.

But always I held this belief.

I can… and I am going to show others that it is possible.

I can’t give you a simple formula that says do this and you will create a thriving life of passion and purpose but I do want to tell you it is possible.

I am living it….

And I hold it for others.

p.s.

One of the things I am deeply passionate about is holding powerful spaces for my clients to  find clarity in their purpose and pursue it with courage and with confidence. This year I created a year long container for women who are ready to take the leap into the greatest potential of their purpose, their thriving and their brilliance. Including a powerful 4 day retreat with the horses and year full of group and private coaching, the medicine women unbridled sacred mastermind is my most transformative program yet. We begin February 1st and we still have two spaces available, if you are called we would love to have you join us. Discover more and apply by visiting this link http://www.hillaryschneider.com/sacred-mastermind

What Do You Do When You Can't Find Your Way Out?

I have been doing a lot of reflecting lately, we are almost halfway through 2016, it is my birthday month and there is just a simple space of looking at how I got here.

And where is "here"?

Currently I am sitting on the floor of my living room in my home on a stunning 80-acre ranch (I like to sit on the floor), living my dream life.

The hay fields of my land...

The hay fields of my land...

 

There are many moments of my days where I am just in a place of awe, sometimes shock, that I am here.

Honestly speaking, it is more than a little bit surreal.

People often ask me how I got here…

Well today, I am going to share a bit more about how I got here.

Since I was a little girl I have been obsessed with two things: horses and having land.

The years I was in my late teens and early twenties, the destination of being where I am now was all I could think about, often so much so that I disconnected myself from the journey.

People have always said to me, "You are so lucky. You have always known what you have wanted to do."

I have known that I wanted to work with horses, that they were a central part of my purpose and my life, and I knew I wanted to be here running a retreat centre, having land of my own and doing something I loved that deeply fulfilled me.

I used to say to people, "Yes, that is true and it also came with a huge dose of impatience. I wanted to be where I am now 10 years ago. And there were many years I didn’t know what to do with myself until I got here."

So what do we do when we can’t find our way out?

There is something to be said about the wisdom of experience, of being able to have the foresight to look again bringing forth the wisdom of the path.

There have been multiple days and hours and moments in the last 6 months where I have pulled from my past, from the patience I learned to grow, to the trust that has rooted deeply inside of me.

The title of this post might not make sense to what I am sharing but what has stood out to me over the last 6 months to a year is knowing I made it through.

I conquered a lot of fears, many blocks and insecurities to get to where I am today.

I can see the path I took clearly and it is one that I remind myself of as I stand before what seems like more insurmountable dreams and visions that stand before me as I look to build my impact, my purpose and my space in the world.

Here is what I have come to know:

1. Nothing lasts forever… Those moments where we feel lost or discouraged with life they won’t last. Try to remember that. A saying I use to say to myself all the time, "This, too, shall pass."

2. Just because you experience something doesn’t mean it is reflective of the outcome. My own coach said to me once to know my process. I don’t think I understood what she meant when she first said it. I do now.

My process goes something like this. First, I get inspired by the possibilities and fired up by the dream. Then, reality hits me and I get freaked out. Then, I get worried and have anxiety and play worse-case-scenario in my head. And then, I find a way to sink back into my initial inspiration so I can move forward.  

So when I am having my process I can hold it just as that, my process.

My fear and anxiety doesn’t mean I suck or I am not capable. It just means I am human and moving through all of the pieces that goes together when you are chasing big things in your life. P.S. My worst fears and worries never came true. I remind myself of that a lot.

3. Lean into your tribe. When you feel daunted, afraid, or discouraged, lean in. Find your tribe. Identify the people you trust, friends, family, coaches, communities and lean into them. Having a team around me, people I could talk to, has been integral to moving me beyond the times I forgot who I was and what I was reaching for.

4. Have your ritual. Know the things you can turn to that is going to bring you back to knowing the bigger picture and knowing yourself.

Meditation, spending time in nature, exercising, reading an inspirational book, music, etc.. Know the things you can turn to that will move you away from feeling paralyzed and towards feeling re-inspired. And do it everyday.  

Each day I have moments of fear and anxiety and every time I can feel that creeping up on me I either go outside on my land and spend time in nature and with my horses, put on my music to jam it out, meditate, visualize or write. I know the things I can turn to and create for myself to give me movement.

5. Don’t give up. Just don’t. I wish I could show you the movie of my life, and how close I was to walking away, giving up, because it felt hard and it felt scary and it felt like it was an impossible task. Somehow I kept digging deeper to the part of me that knew this wasn’t the end. This isn’t the end, keep going. Persistence pays off.

6. To the best of your ability believe in yourself and surround yourself with the reminders of that belief. Keep people around you that are positive that uplift you that support and encourage you so that believing in who you are and what you are reaching for feels a little less crazy and a lot more doable.

7. Be gentle.. On you, on your process. We are so hard on ourselves. We push and push and push many times not giving ourselves the space we need to settle with everything. Be gentle, be kind, be loving on you.

5 years ago I made the biggest move of my life when I headed west with my 3-month-old dog and my horse.  

I felt pulled here by something greater than myself and I followed it.

And I will tell you the whole time I walked that path I was terrified, I doubted, I got depressed, I worried, I cried, and then I felt bad because I didn’t trust as much.

5 years later here I am… Living the life of my wildest imagination, calling an 80-acre slice of paradise my home, having a full practice that moves me deeply, sharing my life with horses and doing what I feel is my life’s work in the world, surrounded by an absolutely amazing team of people that inspire and help me grow this vision beyond what I could have hoped for and it was birthed through a tunnel I once felt I would never see out of.

Rudy

Rudy

 

Keep going. Your fears, your darkness, your disappointments do not signify the outcome, they are just a part of the experience and there is other stuff in there too. Like your hopes and dreams and beliefs even if they feel small right now.

You can step into great things with only one wing working. It will get you there. It may not be smooth, rarely it is, but you will arrive. And while you do your other wing will build strength so when you are ready for the next flight it will be a lot smoother than the first one.

I know this is not the end for me, but I am a little bit wiser than I was 5 years ago. I understand the journey and what it looks like for me. My peaks and valleys aren’t so contrast anymore and I found a strength I never knew I had within me.

And still…

I am sometimes wobbly and afraid, still shaking in my boots at times, and within all of that I keep reaching and dreaming and stepping further into my strength and I keep building my wingspan.

What do you do when you can’t find your way out?

You keep moving.  

See you on the other side.

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